Where and how do we find ourselves? There are seven directions to look: front, back, left, right, up, down, and inward:
Mastering the seventh (inner) direction happens little by little through the formation of the self—the container of our separate, unique identity that can adapt to changing situations by expressing and realizing authentic wishes. Six or more items marked below suggests that an exquisite gyroscope lies within that can negotiate the terrain of life.
THE ORIGINS OF THE SELF
When needs for support, independence, self-expression, and limits are met according to a person’s inner timetable, he or she is able to manage the journey from total fusion with caretakers in infancy to the adaptive self of adulthood. This happens in stages:
Reference: Criteria and descriptions of the “adaptive self” were adapted from information in The Search for the Real Self by James F. Masterson (The Free Press, 1988).