Extra Help for Anger
It is entirely the responsibility of explosive people to learn to tame their temper. However, it is an easier task when family and friends are willing to learn responses that do not fuel a flare-up. Mark any strategies below that you would like others to use to help you or that you are willing to use to calm your significant others:
Avoid asking for help from friends and relatives who are pushy, disinterested, inept, or rigid. Attempts to involve them in your recovery or make them change will hinder your progress. Be cautious of bad advice. Input that makes you feel even worse about yourself is probably not correct. Do not argue with bad advice or try to make others understand. Thank people for their concern and tell them you’ll consider what they are saying.
NATIONAL NETWORKS AND SUPPORT GROUPS
Because there are numerous causes for problems with anger, there are few nationwide organizations or networks devoted to this issue. However, many 12-step groups (Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous, Alanon for family members, and Adult Children of Alcoholics) often deal with this topic and are essential when substance abuse contributes to difficulties. Most communities have shelters and treatment groups for domestic violence. Mental health centers and courthouses are good sources of information. Websites and books can offer additional assistance:
Counseling is very important when anger interferes with work or personal relationships. When physical abuse has occurred, the treatment of choice is group therapy in a domestic violence program. Couples should not be seen in counseling together until batterers have begun to manage destructive urges.